In a world that is obsessed with being thin and dieting, it is inevitable that throughout our lives many of us will lose weight, gain it back, and maybe lose again. The past few months for me, have been a bit of a challenge as I moved to a new city yet again, and am now back in school full time. And of course, as my location, job, love life, and relationships began to change, so too did my body.
Whether I am fat, skinny, or anything in between, I tend to not let the way my body looks, affect the way I feel. However, a few weeks ago I was in a funk and I told one of my friends, “I feel so fat right now.” She responded, “Kat, you’re not fat, you’re beautiful.” While I know this friend meant no harm by her comment, I thought to myself I know I am beautiful, but I also know that by no means am I a skinny woman.
Today I wanted to take the time to explain that you can be both fat AND beautiful.
Who says being fat isn’t beautiful? THE MEDIA. The media is driven to convince us that being bigger or fat is not acceptable and is a danger to our lives. The media is the biggest source of fat shaming, and often tells us that fat people are lazy, don’t eat well, are not healthy, are too big to get off the couch, and would never be caught at the gym. But let me tell you, I eat well, am in perfect health, am extremely hard working, and as you all know I love to shake my booty at ZUMBA any chance I get.
I know what you are all thinking: “But I was told that I should have a perfect skin complexion, no cellulite, naturally sun kissed skin, long legs like Taylor Swift, and the signature Kardashian booty.” Ladies, it is important to remember that the images we see in the media are all PHOTOSHOPPED. Women who appear in the media seem to have flawless skin and eternal beauty, but they too have imperfections just like us. And while they are naturally beautiful women, they look very different without all of the photoshopping and professionals that work tirelessly to make them look flawless. Unless you have a professional makeup artist that does your makeup every day, a stylist who dresses you in the most flattering clothes, professional photographers, and a team that alters your photos, then I don’t think its fare for you to compare yourself to an ideal of beauty that doesn’t exist without an expensive glam team.
As a woman who is both beautiful and yes fat, I want to challenge other women to stop feeling as if being fat, plus size, curvy, or what have you, is not acceptable, because you all are beautiful in your own skin. Each woman is unique in her own way, and beauty should not be defined by a woman’s size or what the media deems to be the current it-look. Women who are fat, skinny, and anything in-between are all beautiful, and its about time that we start recognizing that size has nothing to do with beauty.
For the most part my weight has not held me back from doing the things I am passionate about in life. From performing on stage, to flying on airplanes, to wearing bikinis on the beach, to riding donkeys up the Atlas mountains, to dating and loving fearlessly, I refuse to let the size of my body hinder me from reaching my full potential. And ladies, neither should you. My hope for you all in 2016 is that you stop obsessing over your desire to look a certain way, and start embracing yourself just as you are: unique and gorgeous. I promise that if you take a leap of faith and stop obsessing over what the media has told you is beautiful, and start realizing that you are gorgeous just the way you are, you will live a happier, more fulfilled life.